My friend asked me to expand upon my last post in which I wrote about eating mostly plant-based—specifically the Medical Medium way. She feels like if she lived in a bubble, she could alter her diet and be disciplined. And she worries about not eating what people cook for her (tough one!) and not wanting to disappoint others (also not easy.) I’m going to answer over two posts, and this is the first.
The short answer to these questions is that this is your ONE life, and you have to live it how it works best for you. If eating/living this way makes you feel better—and it will, eventually—then you should eat this way. Period, the end!
The longer, more honest answer is that it’s hard. I still struggle with it after four years.
You’ll have to set boundaries. You’ll have to field a lot of questions. You’ll probably get teased, and may even feel some anger coming your way. Sounds like fun, right? It makes sense that people respond this way though. Food is such a fraught topic. It is baked into the fabric of our lives, no pun intended. It is our entertainment, a huge part of our social lives, our way to cope in a difficult world. Eating and drinking brings people together. It is a way to show love, to bond, sometimes even to communicate when there are no words.
In my family and in many families, food means love. So if you choose to eat differently than them, they may take it that you’re rejecting their love. (BUT I MADE THIS FOR YOU! IT’S ALWAYS BEEN YOUR FAVORITE!) So you have to assure them that because you are choosing to eat differently now, it’s not a reflection on them, their choices or their enticing meals. You have to be loving but clear. As Brene Brown says, clarity is kindness. Sending mixed signals is not.
As someone said to me about starting my blog, ‘You just have to drink a big cup of ‘who gives a sh*t?’ about what others think of you. Or maybe you prefer this saying: ‘what others think of you is none of your business.’
People are always skeptical of change, and that’s why I would guess that most people find Medical Medium when they are desperate. I certainly did. People don’t want to change unless they absolutely have to. I was in pain and wanted to be out of pain, so I was willing to try anything. The near-drowning wasn’t my first go-round with MM (see my last post), but the second time was much easier because by then there were books and Facebook groups, etc. In 20 years, this way of eating will probably be much more accepted. Right now, it’s outside the traditional way of eating, like the SAD (Standard American Diet) or meat-heavy diets the world over. It’s even different than just veganism. It’s still in its infancy, so those who partake of it are really pioneers!
Having said all of this:
- I often fail at all of the above. There are other people I know who are on this program who are way WAY better at following it strictly than I am. I do need to ask them their secret(s).
- I cheat. A lot. Especially in social situations. I’m healed enough to do that now, but it totally catches up with me. And then I have to do a cleanse or just start being stricter again. (Like I have to do now because I have been slacking the last few weeks.) Being stricter means more celery juice, more juicing in general, more fruit, etc.
When I was feeling really bad a few years ago, it was easier to be strict because I was in pain. Discomfort or dis-ease has a way of keeping you on track, because all you want to do is feel better. And if eating better will help you feel better, you tend to stick to it. One problem with trying to heal when you’re really not feeling well is that it’s hard to do all the prep work: chopping, blending, juicing, etc. The juicing and everything else does take effort, and it’s really hard to motivate when you don’t feel well. The motivation has to win out over the effort. I’m not gonna lie, that was a difficult time. It was already stressful because we were renovating our apartment and so we were living in a dingy, dark Airbnb for three of the many months it took to really start feeling better. I didn’t have (couldn’t have) much of a social life during that time, and I had to find other ways to entertain myself. The plus side was that I met lots of people online who were going through the same protocol, and who were also pretty desperate to heal. Most of those people are still mostly on the program and have healed tremendously.
I’ll make another post tomorrow about more practical tips but for now (if you’re still reading) just remember this: you are worth it. You are worth looking after your health. Healing is possible. Glowing health is possible. It may be easier for some than others, but it’s possible. You’re genes aren’t faulty; you’ve just been getting the wrong information. Bottom line: eating this way, living this way, is a radical act of self-love. Are you ready for that?