I will never in a million years understand how people can say they have no regrets in life. I have heard this so many times throughout my life. ‘No regrets!’ ‘I wouldn’t do a thing differently,’ ‘I’d do it all again the same way if I could,’ etc. I, on the other hand, have about 3,476,804 regrets. I was with some girlfriends a few weeks ago, and I asked everyone what they’ve done that they’re remorseful about since college (because ‘in life’ sounded too long. We needed a benchmark—we aren’t that young.) One of my friends said, ‘We’ll still be talking about mine next week so I won’t even begin.’ And I so agree! How on earth can anyone have NO regrets?! Ok maybe this collective ‘they’ I’m referencing claim that they don’t have any misgivings about anything in their lives because everything they did brought them to the point they are in life now (which is presumably happy): to their current partner, their child, career or whatever. I get that. Maybe I am taking it too literally but still… can they honestly say they wouldn’t like to do a take-back on some aspect of their life? On a conversation that went badly? Something they said to hurt another person? Something they did? A path they chose or a decision they made that wasn’t so joyful and light?
Are we too scared to admit our mistakes, so we just cover them over with #noregrets? It seems like people today are either complete open books and are happy to document everything about themselves on social media just to get clicks, or they’re the opposite. These are the people who always say ‘everything is great!’ and when you ask how they are, they answer, ‘Great, best ever!’ and regarding their lives? Nope, they wouldn’t change a thing. But do either of those choices bring actual growth? If we aren’t here to grow as humans, then aren’t we just checking boxes? I choose to believe that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. It shows we’re human, not perfect, and relatable to others. Are you able to be vulnerable with your friends and family? Try to do something outside of your comfort zone today and see how it makes you feel. I can’t promise it will feel great in the moment, but it could have amazing results. Go for it!